How To Win Friends and Influence People
Happiness is Holy Grail to how to win friends and influence people
“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” Dale Carnegie
Our thoughts are so powerful!
Thoughts create emotions and emotions create momentum that give you the results you are currently living.
The reason happiness is the holy grail of how to win friends and influence people is because when your energy is happy feeling you are literally a magnet to others. And the perk is …the benefit is…
Your own life becomes more fun and entertaining.
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This idea of being entertaining to yourself is also an introduction to another theme that peri10k* is going to talk about on Sunday “You are never alone”. The title of this topic could really be
“How to win yourself as your best friend and how to influence yourself to realize are amazing!
You go around with yourself 24/7 why not apply the same energy to getting yourself up to speed to being your best friend.
The same ideas and tips apply both to you as being fascinating to yourself as to how to win friends and influence others.
3 tips for you
1. Exhibit Confidence
Put exercise in your life as a priority. A regular exercise routine like walking, yoga, or going to the gym will give you more confidence and energy as you speak. You can tell the difference between someone who does exercise and someone who doesn’t. The person who exercises speaks with more energy and enthusiasm.
Stand straight and hold yourself in a confident manner. Speak clearly and watch weak words like might or try. Instead of we will try and fix that problem, say we will look at your problem and find a way to get to a solution. Use umbrella words like.
2. Seek Knowledge
Be willing to stretch yourself by gaining more knowledge on subjects that you are interested in so that you will have an interesting perspective.
3. Free up your responses
As Stephen Covey says in his book 7 habits of highly effective people be PROACTIVE
Life just doesn’t tumble out of blue everyday. You carefully design it. You made the choices you are now living. How do you know what choices you have made? Look around you what you see and feel is what you choose when you got out of bed this morning.
To be truly interested in others you need to have a clear look at what conditions throw you off in the ditch. Proactive people know they are responsible for conditions around them and don’t blame others or their physical environment for what is happening to them.
If you are looking for something to blame you will not be able to win many friends much less influence them. At best you may get them to agree about your current problems but then you will see them quickly leave.
In summary you will find your circle of influence become wider and more enjoyable if you realize you only can control your own thoughts, and words.
The results you get everyday with your interactions with other people come back to the basic principal of working on yourself.
Proactive people focus their efforts on the things they can do something about. Reactive people become concerned with things they cannot control, like traffic, weather, and what is on the local news.
So to Win Friends and Influence People prepare your own clarity and positive thoughts so that you can look others in the eye and see them through your clear lenses of impeccable thoughts and words. Only then will you see who they are and enjoy your interactions with each other.
this is one of the key teaching in Dale Carnegie’s famous book “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, when you can see someone for themselves and let them share what hobbies, and interests they have people will trust you and listen to what you have to say as well.
This is when true influence becomes a reality because you are both in a
win win situation with each other.
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