Feeling Down Lately? Here’s the Answer
Is there an answer to feeling down?
Let’s explore that idea first.
If you are reading this title you may already have your disbelief critic activated.
There is no one size fits all
There is not a medicine on this planet that will help all people the same way
We live in a society that believes that facts, science and rationality will solve all our problems, but we ALL live with minds that are ruled by feelings and emotions.
How many times have you watched a client, friend or yourself do something that’s clearly going to cause them difficulty later on?
Where ever you are with your emotions of not feeling good but feeling bad it’s the feeling that gets in the way of you creating a life that is full to the brim of ease, fun, and laughter. It is well worth your time and energy to seek solutions to how to feel less down about your life.
How to uplift the feeling down emotion
Recognize that you have stuck energy. Stuck energy is energy around a situation or person that doesn’t feel good. When something unpleasant happens we often replay it in our minds. We relive the event and HOW we felt and all the negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions are dredged up over and over again. This thinking about the event leaves you tired and without energy and when you lack energy it is very difficult to move forward and meet the challenges of daily life.
The benefit of figuring out how to change feeling down to feeling good and upbeat is well worth experiencing A light bulb moment when you ease up on yourself.
Know you are not alone everyone has stuck energy
Tip: Look for groups, friends that generally lift your emotions like:
- uplifting books
NOTE: DO NOT look for someone to talk over your feelings with who also habitually feels down. This will only take you deeper into the energy of despair or that everything in the world is going to hell and there is little hope for anyone. You will both find yourself in a rabbit hole that is even harder to climb out.
I like this story to bring this idea home. It’s called: The law of the garbage truck
One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport. We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches!
The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us.
My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was really friendly. So I asked, ‘Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!’ This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call, ‘The Law of the Garbage Truck’.
He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage,
- full of frustration
- full of anger
- full of disappointment
As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they’ll dump it on you.
Don’t take it personally,
- just smile
- wish them well
- and move on
Don’t take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.
If you hang out with people or places where their lives are full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment you both will find yourself dumping all your garbage on each other. So find a better way to get rid of your stuck energy rather then spreading it to people at work, at home, or on the streets.
4 simple steps to help you cope with feeling down
Pause and take a few deep breaths – make sure to breathe deeply into your stomach. This simple technique is being used by more people all the time to ease stress. Global meditation movements are surfacing and common everyday people are talking about the effect of breath on their health. TIP: Sometimes this first step is enough on its own.
STEP2) Notice your emotion with out judgment.
Label it: it could be overwhelm, guilt, stress, anxious. Write the emotion you are feeling on a piece of paper. Take the feelings and journal about them. You will be surprised to read about what was stressing you out as you see your improvements in how you live your life after doing inner work on yourself.
Step3) pivot the energy by saying supportive affirmations like.
- I am doing my best
- Things always work out for me
- This feeling of _______will soon pass
- I am safe, I am loved, and I can handle whatever I am feeling
- I love myself; I will take care of this feeling later today
Bonus STEP: Allow
This step takes courage because feelings can be painful and often irrational so of course you want to avoid them. BUT it’s the very avoidance of feeling that keeps them stuck.
The I don’t want to think about that thing I am thinking about.
So allow your new solutions time to work and know that you are awesome and have a lot of courage to look at what you are feeling and have double courage to find a way to soothe those unwanted emotions to better feeling thoughts.
TIP: use the supportive affirmations whenever you feel stressed again during your day again without judgment. You are only feeling a feeling and remember the feeling is just some stuck energy that you can clear away with practice.
Note: If you feel you need to go deeper into your emotional feelings that are bothering you, it might be time to hire a life coach, or a counselor to go more in depth.