How to turn problems into solutions
What a day! Word quit on me and then I lost it all! What am I going to say I am the main speaker and that was the draft for my speech!
Have you ever felt the doom of a big problem maybe even bigger than the one I just shared!
Maybe something like you want better health, or more clients or just to feel good.
The topic today is for you how to turn problems into solutions….
Have you ever heard someone say to you when you are faced with a problem? “It must have happened for a reason”? I have heard this from others and say it to my self many times when something happens like:
Missing an appointment
Stuck in traffic
Lost a friend
Granted when someone says “it must have happened for a reason” I want to hit them because it just doesn’t feel good but later when I look back at the situation I can always see the logical unfolding of events that had to happen to get me in a better place. Does it feel good at the time NO but later yes I see the big picture.
I am going to tell you a story that will help you grasp this point of why we have to have problems in the first place and the idea that words don’t teach only experience does.
ONE DAY A SMALL GAP…
One day a small gap appeared in the cocoon, through which the butterfly had to appear.
A boy, who accidentally passed by, stopped and watched how the butterfly was trying to get out of the cocoon.
It took a lot of time, the butterfly was trying very hard, and the gap was as little as before. It seemed that the power would leave the butterfly soon.
The boy decided to help the butterfly. He took a penknife and cut the cocoon.
The butterfly immediately got out, but its body was weak and feeble, and the wings were barely moving.
The boy continued to watch the butterfly, thinking that now its wings would spread and its would fly. However, that did not happen.
The rest of its life the butterfly had to drag its weak body and wings that weren’t spread.
It was unable to fly, because the boy did not realize that an effort to enter through the narrow gap of the cocoon was necessary for the butterfly, so that the life-giving fluid would move from the body to the butterfly’s wings and that the butterfly could fly.
Life forced the butterfly to leave its shell in a hard way, so that it would become stronger and would be able to grow and develop.
If we were allowed to live life without meeting difficulties, we would not be viable. Life gives us challenges to make us stronger.
If we didn’t have problems we would not be able to experience the fullness of life.
5 ways to think like a butterfly when faced with a problem
- Remember there is a solution to every problem and if you are focused on the problem then you are not allowing the solution to come to you.
- Get an attitude think of yourself as getting stronger because of your challenges. Start looking for a bigger picture. Look for inspiration to carry you through the rough part.
- Reach out of your present reality and visualize a more wanted conclusion to your problem. This way you will be focusing on what you want not what you don’t want.
- Ask for help you don’t have to face your problems alone.
- Focus on what feels good. Proactive self-care, chill, take a nap, or a walk so that your energy can shift to solutions instead of problems.
I am going to End with another story about how you can turn problems into solutions.
One day a dull and exhausted by the illnesses and burdens of life peasant came to the wise man. He sat in front of the wise man, which gave him a heartfelt and warm smile. The peasant breathed out heavily letting out a wave of mourning. He began complaining about his life, that he has a hard burden that he doesn’t see a bright daylight at all, it’s like one problem falls on his head or the other – they have twisted him between the grindstones so much that he can’t even breathe in some fresh air. Later, he began blaming all of his relatives, who, in his opinion, were guilty for his misfortunes, whether the circumstances didn’t turn out right for him, or something else.
The wise man listened to him in silence, and when the peasant once again contritely inquired the wise man, why is it so unfair, what should he do and how to find peace, the wise man got up from his seat and invited the peasant to follow him.
They came out of the hut and went to a lakeside, which was not far away and where from time to time flying fishes were jumping, trotting fast above the surface, catching food.
The wise man led the peasant to the lakeside and said to him:
“Do you see the smoothness of the lake? The depths are full with life. There are fishes that always stay in water, and if suddenly the lake got polluted,
they couldn’t see further their own nose, they would hardly recognize where the source of the pollution was, and they would keep swimming in circles.
And there are also fishes that got wings and they can rise above the water of the lake, looking at it from the heights of their flight.
So this is my advice: instead of complaining about your life, come to this lakeside from time to time, watch the flying fishes and try to understand what I wanted to say to you.”
In conclusion, remember the butterfly it takes effort to fully form your most beautiful self. Remember the fish that can fly above any polution of thought or event and see that there is always a better way.