Master the Art of Language and Communication
I almost didn’t write this topic or sign up to deliver it on periscope and google+ , because I felt I was not worthy of mastery of the subject. Then I looked at the topic with a different perspective. My last blog post was all about self love and accepting yourself just as you are see your faults and successes and go forward anyway. So here I am going forward with the subject and see what I discover.
That’s why I love doing the sharAthons on Periscope and challenges. They always expand my boundaries into more of me that I didn’t know existed.
The subject for this blog post is “Master the Art of Language and Communicatin”and I am going to explore this topic from my personal perspective.
I have been told I am good at communication by my peers and bosses but have not fully believed them.
My intent in writing this blog post is that it will help me feel that I can share with others the value of becoming a master of the art of language and communication.
First lets look at the word master as a noun. If you choose to use the word master as defined by the dictionary as a noun it reads like this:
“a person whole teachings others accept or follow” like a zen master,
a person eminently skilled in something, as an occupation, art, or science:
the great masters of the Impressionist period.
When I think of mastery as a noun, I feel that if I call myself master I will know it all and will just tell you what I know and that leaves out a very important part of me. This part of me is something that I highly value. Next I will tell you how I made peace with my confusion.
I felt if I called myself a master I would leave out learning and experiencing and I love learning and experiencing life. So I want to find another term that speaks to me other than master. I really don’t want to be a master I want to be a experiencer.
Next I looked at the word master as a verb. Master as a verb means:
to make oneself master of;
become an adept in.
this suits me better. I like thinking that I am progressing in my language and communicatin skills. Now that I got that straighted out in my brain and I find the fun in becoming a master I can go further.
3 Steps to loving to communicate successfully
- Knowing where you are at in the present moment. This takes inner work as I demonstrated above with my questioning my thoughts about being a master.
- Being comfortable with your own inner values on a subject will change your body language, and the way you communicate. You will not be pushing against but be allowing value to come through your communications with others with both your words, your meanings, and your body language.
- Take time for self-inquiry, when your feelings are triggered by others and you feel bad. Take time for self-inquiry. Ask yourself why am I reacting negatively? Do I need to change my words? Or do I simply need to understand that there are many layers of meaning here and I am only responsible for my own reactions. Then when you have time take the event or confrontation to your journal or a coach or a counselor.
To recap, be gentle with yourself and don’t question every word that comes out of your mouth. This will only stop your authentic self from coming through. You have been placed in this world for a reason and there are those who will need your words and uniques perspective to help them with their lives.
I also encourage you to continue to grow and develop yourself in the area of better communication and language skills. Your efforts will help you feel more self confident and build your self-esteem as you see yourself improve.
Find a supportive group where you can practice the sill of communication and language. Make sure the group is a perfect fit and you feel comfortable with the feedback you are getting and feeling that you are being encouraged to go beyond any limiting beliefs you may have about speaking and communicating.